a small clit with weird feelings

It sounds to me like you have the wrong boyfriend.  Get some more experience someplace, and see if things are different for you.  You should feel absolutely free during sex.  If it feels like you need to pee, just relax and let go.  After all, you may be inhibiting yourself from having an orgasm.  Wouldn't that be a shame?  Your partner should understand.  Especially if you squirt.  That would be a real gift.

ok first u have to b wet from him to slide up into you!! Also from him to find ur clit faster juss open ur legs really wide unless u have huge pussy lips ur clit sould b exposed. tell him to pull the hood back on it n lick it with the tip of tongue. To answer ur question about when ur legs are shaking and u have to pee dats because ur about to squirt, Im sorry but i cnt tell you how to squirt for i am a guy it just splashes on my face lol.  
Ok when ur wet n ur ready to go tell ur bf to slide his penis in pussy hes gonna feel a opening, thats ur hole... and the rest is history

Wow, this question has a lot of different angles. we'll probably need a little more information to be able to really help.

How old are you? While some women never develop a real prominent clit. Most girls' clitorises and labia don't really develop until they near sexual maturity. if you are older, some piercings can make the clit more prominent, as well as more sensitive.

How experienced are you?  It sounds a bit like you don't have much experience judging from your description of how tight you are. That feeling you are experiencing sounds a lot like the descriptions i sometimes hear women give for the sensation of an orgasm coming on, so you might want to ride that one out and see where it leads. But to be certain, we'll need some of the women here to make some comments too.

How experienced is your boyfriend?  /your clit may be microscopic. or he may need to learn a thing or two about pussies. until then, he may require a map, compass, a flashing neon sign pointing to the clit, and a little "X marks the spot" to find the clit.

Troubled. . .

My responses follow yours. . .

i have a really small clit and my boyfriend sometimes has problems finding it and it's quite annoying.

** Sounds like he's a little inexperienced.  Most guys know by the way a woman shakes that he's got her clit, as you describe below -- he should be able to identify it easily by the way you "shake" or "tremble" as you put it.  That's because the clit is FULL of nerve endings, and it is highly vulnerable to direct stimulation by a tongue/finger/dick or anything else.  You can try directing him ("a little the left, little to the right", etc. . .)

worse yet when he does find it and rubs it, it makes my legs tremble and sometimes it feels good but most of the time it feels like i need to pee!!!

** This sounds like your first clitoral orgasm about to erupt.  If I were you, I'd "ride it out" as tempest put it.  Your body will not allow you to pee and cum at the same time.  With direct stimulation to your clit for long enough that "pee" feeling you think you're having it actually what is commonly referred to as "squirting".  I know from experience, because my wife is a squirter, and the first time she squirted, she described the same exact feeling (an urge to "pee"), and she fought for awhile.  One day, she decided to just go with it, and she gushed all over the carpet (I was blown away, and super turned on when it happened!).

i dont know what to do about this and im wondering if this is the right reaction.

** I'm pretty sure it's the right reaction.  Let's see, your legs shake, and after awhile you feel like you need to "pee" -- yeah, that's the right reaction. *wink* =0)

also a problem to my really small clit is that he can't rub it with its tongue it's so hard to find.

** Yeah, that's definitely inexperience.  He would know immediately if he "hit the spot" by your reaction (unless you're not reacting at all, or you're not telling him what feels good).

speaking of his tongue, how can i give him tips to get into my hole easier?

** Easy. . .vocalize.  Tell him what feels good.  You can say things like "harder", "faster", "deeper", and so on until he gets to what makes you feel good.

its quite tight and his tongue isnt exactly strong or big and i want to know how he can get it in there.

** The size of his tongue will have little do with anything if you direct him properly.  And ironically, you'd be surprised to learn that the human tongue is actually pound for pound the strongest, most flexible muscle in the entire human body.  Grab the back of his head, and pull him closer if you have to (don't suffocate him though!)  All in all, you should try using your fingers when he's not around, since it'll be easier for you to find your clit (you'll know where it feels good most), and it'll be easier to direct him next time you and him decide to have sex.  Anyway take care, and let us know if you need any more advice.

Can I ask you how it feels like when you play with your self? Because if you can get an orgasm yourself then it should be possible to guide him to do it the same way to you. Don't be shy about it, just tell him exactly what to do. I have tried to squirt once and I also had the feeling that I had to pee, so don't worry it sounds like you are really lucky to be able to do that.

Best wishes, Ann