im a virgin, but i still have huge, ugly vaginal lips.

oh dear, how did you come to this belief in your less than wonderfulness? didnt the pix here help you know the true specialness and desirability of your attributes? there those of out here who are quite normal and pray to be blessed with a partner with what you have. lip length has nothing to do if you have had sex, they do not wear out. lips are the butterfly's wings. please love them and let them be loved. blessings, -b

If you're looking for advice on shrinking or lightening your labia, you've come to the wrong place Anne.

this website is devoted to the worship of what you've described as ugly. Most men who've reached mental maturity desire exactly what you have and would be thrilled beyond words to have you in their bed.

don't try to change the treasures you've been endowed with. If you're concerned with what your boyfriend will think then you'd better bring it up with him before you decide it's time for him to deflower you.

If he's into a real womans pussy, then hold on and enjoy the ride. If he isn't, then he's still to inexperienced and your first time will most likely be an unpleasant experience.  That isn't to say that it won't get better with practice though.

ONE MORE VERY IMPORTANT THING. Be sure that you know what the age of consent laws where you live are.  In the state I live in he can be arrested and convicted for sex crimes against a minor if the two of you make love right now. This will stay with him for the rest of his life, even if the two of you get married later on. So be very careful that you aren't going to be risking his future when you give yourself to him.

Best of luck Anne          t_d

Changing your lips is not necessary. . .

That's the good news.

Changing your THINKING, and the way you think about YOURSELF is what needs to change.

That's the not-so-good news.

In order to find comfort in yourself you need to first realize that nothing about you needs to change, except the way that you think about yourself, and how you perceive your own body.

I'm sure your boyfriend will be impressed with what you have, and will not be looking to identify things that you seem to think are "wrong" with your lips.

Oh, and to answer your question about "how a virgin can have labia lips that hang a little more than an inch lower than they 'should'. . "

First of all it's inherited.  Yes, one of your parents made it possible.

Next, you say they hang a little lower than they "should"??

And exactly how low do you think they "should" hang??

Have you seen more than 3 or 4 sets of labia lips??

Have you seen labia lips on at least 3-4 of your female friends??

Assuming that the answer to both questions is "no". . .

Then how would you assume that they "should" hang to a certain length??  Labias come in all shapes and sizes, as evidenced by this site.  Don't sell yourself short.

Anne, don't rush into anything with your b/f.  If you read the various letters on this site, and look at the various photos, you will see that your lips are actually quite lovely, quite sexual, and very attractive.  They are a positive thing in your life, not a negative.  The first thing you must learn, is to love yourself.  Without an appreciation of your own body and it's beauty, you can hardly be a good partner for someone else.  After all, you would be constantly worried that he will see something you are ashamed of, or that you don't think is attractive, and therefore you would be hiding it, or preventing him from making love to you completely.  Read and learn first.  You might also check out www.pussyxxl.com for more photos of lovely women.  I also agree with one of the other commentors, that you must know the law in your location regarding sex with someone over 18.  The penalties can be quite severe.  Don't rush into something which you don't yet understand.