I tried to compare my genitals along w/ SEXYLABIA's pictures.....

you are taking body image to seriously. All people are different ...there is no norm.
Shave totally and get naked and look at yourself and ADMIRE how special you are.

Marie, let's start with your choice of lovers.  You say that those who have declined to perform oral on you have not lasted long.  Personally, I don't understand why you would be with someone so selfish to begin with.  They want oral from you, but won't reciprocate?  That's simply not acceptable, never mind fair.  But your comments about that reveal that you love receiving oral, since those lovers haven't lasted long with you.  So, even with those comments, you expose your pleasure with your lips, your clit, and your cunt.  

Next, you speak about rarely getting feedback, being of medium size, with a larger ass, genitals, and smaller tits.  You are in the right place to get feedback.  There are lots of guys here who would just love to recieve photos of you, and to give you free and unfettered opinion, including me.  The simple fact is, as stated all over this site, that larger labia, larger clits, a larger vulva, are all very sexually exciting to most men.  This entire site is dedicated to that premise.  If yours are larger than those in the photos on this site, then you are exceptional, and very highly desirable.  Larger is better.  The only thing better than pussy is more pussy.  The only thing better than a wet pussy is one that is more wet.    

I also need to point out to you, in regard to your next point, that many, many men just love a woman with a big ass.  Just how big is yours?  There are porn sites just to please those who love a big ass.  So how bad is that?  It isn't.  It's just one more area where you are exceptionally gifted.  These are things you should be enjoying, things you should be thankful for and joyous about.

Many men love huge tits.  On the other hand, many men love smaller ones, those that aren't heavy and don't hang down, those that are pert.  So, you see, Marie, you have every reason to be in love with yourself, which is the most important thing.  Stop comparing yourself to some model, and just love your own body, just as it is.  Seek some guidance from those men here, as you are doing, and you will find that you are very fortunate indeed.

Best wishes to you.  Please keep us informed of your progress toward full enjoyment of all of your gifts.

It is not what you think of you that matters very much, the all important point is what your lover see's and admires about you, and for that I think you have come to the right place for comment.

Mr "S"

Hello Marie,

You sound like you really want to love your pussy, but you seem to have a distorted view of what your body looks like and that worries me a bit.

You stated yourself that you believe that having a larger clit and labia seems to make them more sensitive, so it sounds to me that you understand how they benefit you so I really don't see a problem there.

You said that you have a big butt. not fat. so you seem to understand the difference between a big butt and a fat ass. And I assure you that most men really dig a big butt.

If it's feedback you want...You're at the right place. I'll bet that the men and women who frequent this site would be eager to view and provide feedback on all the parts of your body that concern you. In fact I don't think I've ever encountered a group of people who want nothing more than to do that for you. /and no, we're not just a bunch of pervs. We really care too!

finally let's address your the men you keep ending up with. you are obviously into oral. Both giving and receiving. which makes it a real shame that you keep ending up with men who are such selfish (and stupid)bastards. What you need is a man who digs big pussy lips and wants to eat you out. The solution for this is simple really. Before you let him into your pants let him know what he's in for, and what you expect. this may mean that you have to wait a little longer before you feel comfortable enough to talk like this to him. And that will also mean that it'll be a little more of a wait before the tow of you can get to the fun stuff, but is this necessarily a bad thing. I mean, the tension will build a little longer, and you'll be really ready for each other when it happens. You'll both know what you're looking for in a lover. And if he's not down to eat you, or doesn't want to wait for you. Then you will have just escaped the disappointment of having fucked a loser.

I wish you all the best Marie.

Well said  Marquis - Hear - Hear.    

Mr "S"

Thank you, for your feedback, I appreciate all of them.

WOW!  I didn't imagine that my story would actually be read, much less responded to.  I read other stories, hopong they are true and real, so I decided to explain mine, which I did.

I now feel acknowledged as a woman, more so today then before.  I suppose, you all are right  in theory and its made think that I should stop being negative.  I'm sure, its because of emotional damage and experiences in my life.

In my family, growing up and even in school sex and private parts had never been allowed to be discussed nor mentioned in anyway shape or form!  I've always had self image issues because I've always felt I was and still am a unique freak that doesn't belong anywhere.  I am safe in my own world, yet not so much in the real world.  

Honestly, society perfect desired image of what women should look like, certainly doent help the cute average women.  Especially, as we get older we're less than.  TV,  movies & magazines etc., etc, makes it even worse!  

I am so happy, that I found this site and there are people who can relate and/or understand.  The compassion is shown here is a blessing to me.   Finally, someone heard my concerns.  Hooray!  Its just the image of perfection and never talking about one's shape genitals is vision differently than mine.  Maybe beause I am not the hourglass type.  Maybe its because I can show camel-toe through clothes.  I try to conceal, more than reveal.  Ugh!!

Maybe here is where I belong?  Thanks, for showing love!

You're right all of you, this is the place to be for me.  Now, its all coming together for me I think.  I've always been teased by everyone family, friends, work in the past and even now.  Probably because before puberty, I was a white young stick figure shape girl with a big booty.  Then, after puberty all my curves came in except for a developed chest.  I guess, you can't have everything.  If you think of a pear or an upside spoon, then that's me.  Perhaps, that all shapely women like me are more ethnic?  So funny looking, as a white girl, who was a walking stick w/a huge butt.  I mean, you see it is oddly humorous indeed.  Hmmm, that said, I am sure my image self image began there.  Makes sense.  Of course, my peeps still tease about it.  

What bothers me most of my parts is my pussy.  I don't think my vulva looks normal and I don't like the way it looks.  However, I love the way it feels and what it does for me.  Now, for my past sexual experience, I don't get it.  I love receiving oral, I love to be worshiped and cherished too.  However, it all begins with me accepting myself first right?  

I must admit, I am proud of that fact that I keep myself very clean.  I would be shocked/surprised if ever I wasn't.  Its crucial for me to look, feel and taste clean.  So, why men won't stay down there for long periods of time or at all, is beyond me.  It certainly doesn't help my self esteem with my body image either.

Maybe both men and women just don't talk about each others genitals?  Hmmmmmmmm.........???  

Thanks, for showing me attention in a positive manner and providing feedback.  This gives me a better understanding.  

I love, the love!  Finally, some fucking answers and appreciation!  You all are very kind and honest.  That's exactly what I needed!  

I will start working on myself in order to get what I want.  I just such a passive person, I never say anything.  Plus, its embarrassing to talk about this stuff in person.  

All of your advice has been worthy and noted.  I am speechless really.  You folks made me feel better.  

XOXO

Thanks again,

Marie

Marie,

Allow me to dissect your original submission:

And I am still confused about mine and how they measure up?  I have never had a lover tell me anything negative about my vagina thus far.   However, I have had lovers who aren't into female oral sex (just male, example I give, but don't receive), which those relationships never last long for me because I believe its not fair.

** Okay, your pussy does not need to "measure up" to anyone else's.  It is what it is.  Oh, and for those fucks who don't give you anything but expect to receive, you need to demand that they eat your pussy, and if they don't fuck them (not literally obviously), just move on to a man who will, because trust me there are PLENTY of us out here.  I'm married, but my wife has large labia, and when we have sex, it is a PRE-REQUISITE that I eat her out really good so that she comes like 2-3 times before we have sex.  It just makes me feel better to see her come, and she services me just as good after she gets her rocks off.  We spoke to some of our married friends recently (we're openly sexual) and they were telling us about how they have sex, and when my wife mentioned to one of the other wives that BOTH of us cum multiple times during our sexual encounters, they were blown away, since in their relationship usually the husband comes, and the wife gets left to "figure things out".  How fucked up is that?!?  So that is to say, you can do better babe!  If you keep running into snags, and you like women, you could always come spend a night with my wife and I.  You'll leave feeling SPENT. . .I can guarantee you that much! =0)

Needless to say, I unfortunately don't know where I stand with my body confidence, since I rare get feedback.  I know, that I have a large vagina for a medium size woman.  I've always felt that my lips and clit was too long and too big.  Maybe that's why I am so sensitive down there?

** Okay, big pussy, AND a big clit?!?  AND your super sensitive too??  Can you remind me one more time about how and why that is a problem again?!? =0)

Of course, personally I never liked to look at my parts because I think they're abnormal, until after I reviewed your website.  I semi fit in, but not really.  I just think maybe I am too unique.  I compared my vagina with the girls pictures on your site, yet mine still looks different.

** You don't NEED to fit in.  Stop trying to match a "type".  You are you.  Fuck what everyone else thinks.  Plain and simple.  I'm sure your pussy is amazing.  Seems your the only one who doesn't know it yet.  Just because a man hasn't complimented your pussy, doesn't meant there's something wrong with it.  They haven't complained either remember?  That's because there IS nothing to complain about.  You want to gauge how your pussy feels wrapped around some guy's cock??  That's easy.  Just watch and see if he cums.  I can guarantee unless he has some kind of erectile dysfunction or something, he will fucking cum.  GUARANTEED.  Just like day follows night.  So it is when a pussy and a cock meet up with each other.

In my mind, I think my vagina and everything about it is huge!  Which, matches my ass, yet not my breasts!!!  I mean really, how unfair is that?  Big on the bottom (and I am not fat, just average size) and small on the top!!!!!

** Yeah, tell me about it!!  How fucking unfair is that?!?!  Here you are, running around with a big ass, and a big pussy to match, and my cock hasn't sniffed you out yet!!  I am an ass man.  Big breasts are nice (my wife is 34D), but she'll attest to the fact that I love her ass (it's about 40" around or so) much more than her breasts!  Your "big" on bottom and small on top?!?  Well, shit.  You and I would fit together like a cork and a wine bottle!  In fact, you and ANY man on this site would fit together like that.  I hope you're into getting your ass smacked, because I tend to get rowdy during sex! =0)  Trust me. . .what you're talking about is not a "bad" thing.  You should be happy.  There are men out there JUST like me who would rob/steal/give away an appendage to find a woman with a nice big ass, and a big sexy pussy to go with it.  You know, my wife's pussy actually makes noises when my cock slides in and out of it because her lips are so thick?  Do you have ANY idea what kind of turn on that is for me?!?

Will you provide advice as to, how I can become a confident woman within my own skin?

** You want advice?  All you need to do is to realize how much 99.9% of the men walking this planet would LOVE to do things to your pussy (lick it, suck it, fuck it, you name it) regardless of what it looks like.  Your self-image of your pussy is all in your head (as it is for most of the women on this site).  Pussy is sexy.  Period.  When was the last time you heard a man say: "Pussy is sexy IF it's like this"?  Never.  Why?  Because when the chemicals that your pussy emits (pheromones I think they're called) reach our noses, and/or when we feel how wet your pussy is, our brains actually shut down, and our dicks pretty much take control over our bodies from that point.  We don't look at your pussy and go: "Oh, if only this lip was symmetrical and looked more like that one." -- we go: "Duh. . ." as a little bit of drool drips from our lips, and our dicks get hard.  Our brain can only process one command from that point: "Pussy.  Must lick.  Must suck.  Must fuck.  As soon as possible.  Pussy!  When done, must repeat process." (the last command doesn't happen for some men, but it does for me).  Am I making sense now?  If you'd like to try an experiment to test my theory, then do this: the next man who you date / come into contact with, after you've grown comfortable enough with him, one day, in private when it's just you and him, while he's talking to you (it has to be while he's talking, otherwise the element of surprise isn't the same), just rip all your clothes off (keep your heels on if you're wearing heels -- that is sexy), and lick one of your fingers, and then rub it up and down your pussy and walk towards him really slowly.  When you get close enough, straddle him, get real close to him (so that your breasts touch his chest, and he can feel the warmth of your body), and whisper in his ear: "I want you to fuck me!", and watch what he does.  You can change the phrase to: "I want you to lick my pussy!" if you prefer that he taste it before he bastes it.  And then just lay back, and watch what happens.  If I'm wrong, and he doesn't do shit, or mentions something about the way your pussy looks (he'd have to be fucking gay to do that, and even then, I know some gay men who would fucking crumble under that kind of pressure), I'll eat my shoe -- better yet, I'll eat your pussy since he didn't, then I'll let my wife eat it too!  If he does EXACTLY what you told him to do, then you'll know everything I've said to you so far is 100% true, and that your pussy is SUPER sexy, no matter what it looks like! =0)

I feel (since day one) that I just don't fit in anywhere, not even here.  How can I compare?  I'm not ugly, but in my mind I think my body and private parts are!  I just know, that I am too big!!!

** Again, you don't need to compare.  You are you.  That's all there is to it.  There is no such thing as a pussy that is "too big".  That's like saying that there is a such thing as too much money.  Neither makes any sense.  Everyone knows you can't have too much money, just like you can't have pussy that is too big!  It's an oxymoron.  If after reading my response (as you can see, I'm refreshingly candid in my responses), you still feel like your pussy just "doesn't fit in", feel free to send me a picture of it, and I'll "rate" it for you.  Just know that I am a bit biased, since I've NEVER come across a pussy that I thought was less than a 10, on a scale of 1-10.  Oh, and if your pussy is WET in the pic you send me, you can pretty much add a 10 to whatever "score" I give it (you'll end up with a score of 20 on a scale of 1-10). *wink* =0)

XOXO,

- Eric

Good job, people! Another woman saved!

I am so happy that we were able to help you out. Keep working on your self image, We'd love to help. We LOVE big fat pussy lips and clits on wet pussies. and big buts too, and a "sista" ass on a white girl is very unique and desirable. Find a man, who is really into your body. Hell find a woman! I'll bet you'll get all the oral you can handle if you did that!

And once you've learned to love yourself the way we do. Break the chain, teach your children to love themselves too. Perhaps if that had been done for you, you wouldn't dislike your body the way you do.

Yes, I'm back once again.  Why is it here my cries are heard?  Yet, in the real world, no one ever listens to me?  Of all places, here is where I finally get nice, honest advice!  Cool!

I will become better.

The cycle ends with me!

TY,

XO!

Maybe if I rub honey on my pussy, then the males will flock & lick me, as if I were sweet nectar!  Bees to the Queen.  Of course, there would be no worries about how my cunt looks!  Right?  Hmmm...

On this site my dear you could find plenty of guy's to rub it on for you.

Mr"S"

Okay Marie,

Are you serious with these responses?!? =0)

To answer your first question:

Q: Why is it here my cries are heard?  Yet, in the real world, no one ever listens to me?

A: This site is entirely dedicated to pussy.  The real world is dedicated to pussy too, but most people are too prudish to talk about it openly, and we have too much censorship going on.

To address your second response:

Maybe if I rub honey on my pussy, then the males will flock & lick me, as if I were sweet nectar!  Bees to the Queen.  Of course, there would be no worries about how my cunt looks!  Right?  Hmmm...  

** If you rub honey on your pussy, I would NEVER come up for air.  I'm not worried about what your pussy looks like at all, and regardless of what it looks like, if you rub honey on it you will almost certainly get stung with my stinger after I lick all the honey off first! *wink* =0)