Should i tell my boyfriend about my labia before he sees it?

Dear confused, it sounds like you are about to embark on one of life's great adventures.  To begin with, you have no need to pretend that nothing's wrong, since nothing is wrong.  You are one of the very fortunate women who have large, lovely labia.  Those inner labia hanging down between your legs are something of which to be very proud.  They are a sign of your sexuality.  Enjoy them.  I hope you play with them yourself.  As far as your b/f is concerned, just tell him what you want.  That is, if you want him to perform oral on you, just say so.  Tell him how excited the thought of it makes you.  Ask him to lick those beautiful lips of yours, to suck on them and play with them.  After all, that's what they're there for.  You are blessed.  Act like it.  Enjoy them, and your b/f will too.  If you decide to discuss your labia with him before hand, do so from the point of view of how excited the thought of oral sex is to you, of how excited you get just thinking about this or that thing which he can do for you. Keep the discussion  positive and exciting.  Put aside your concerns adn insecurities.  As you can see on this site, men are seriously attracted to longer, more full labia.  You are fortunate to have them.  Your b/f is fortunate that you are considering allowing him to play with them.  Best wishes to you both.

hey there confused,
thats the beauty of this site.
do let him know that you are well endowed.
you can show this site to him  first and see if he appreciates it.

if he does then green light. if not, he isnt the one to love you.

you have a precious gift and i wish you the best enjoyment of it.

blessings, brer

I'm 18 and have now had sex with and been in serious relationships with two guys. For both I pretended nothing was wrong and that I was completely confident with my body. Eventually they did say something about it, but not in a joking way. It hurt my feelings when they brought it up for the first time and that's when I told them about my insecurities about it. Both didn't mind though and my current boyfriend says it makes sex feel better (and hes pretty experienced) and that he can show me a ton of girls in porn with the same thing so I shouldn't worry. You should just go for it if you're ready to lose your virginity. Don't be worried about how he will react, because if he calls you beautiful all the time, your labia won't all of a sudden make you unattractive to him. I still get nervous sometimes that when I break up with my boyfriend and start to look for new guys that they will think it's gross, but honestly who cares? It's the way I am and I'm not going to spend thousands of dollars to get something cut off because people might not like it. Plus it makes sex and foreplay a lot better for me. Be confident with yourself and other people won't even notice your "flaws" (even though this isn't even a flaw!).

Confused. . .

Why don't you read the letter I wrote to Shawna. . .

Another young woman who was thinking the same thoughts you're thinking until I spoke to her:

www.sexylabia.com/letters/msg2345_for-shawna.htm

Shelby, You're right on the money.  The larger or longer lips are a big plus.  Therefore, if someone doesn't like them, that's their problem.  Go into any relationship knowing that your lips are probably the most sexually attractive thing about you.  As your b/f states, there are many examples of porn starts with larger lips, or longer ones.  Guess why?  Men are attracted to them, and excited by them.

show him this site.and on pornhub.com search porn stars like annette dawn and alexis texas.

Lol I am shawna, Whom Eric was reffering to. and i was with my first 3 months before i showed him.. he never minded. never has. we talked about it and i talked about getting mine removed and he wasnt happy about that. its erotic for men i suppoce. we were together 2years. since then i admit i have been with a few men. one was a 22 year old "player", i thought he would be so grossed out but he loved it he stripped me naked and had his fun without a complaint. another ive been with just recently, hes my age, (18) and the first time i stripped down infront of him i was so afraid (he is alot more experienced than me) and so i covered myself. im not even dating this boy i might add and he got mad at me for covering myself up!! he even talked aboout how bad he wanted to go down on me (too bad my monthly came around when it did), we dont plan on dating, but he still wants me more and more. he loves my body, he brags about it to his friends, and right now he is so impatient for my monthly to be done so we can have some more fun. now thats a confidence booster right there. even my ex of two years is always coming back for more. and i can relate to you, i am a very good looking girl, 18, with an amazing body ive been told.

so my advice for you, from experience is to just let it happen. one day when he tries to go down your pants.. let him! he may be a little surprised at first but chances are he will be so turned on he will love it, the guys who know about mine have.. and believe me i was always so afraid to be intimate with a guy because i was afraid they would tell all their friends and such but honest to god truth. men dont care. and lots really find it sexy!!!!

I have been married for over 13years with my guy for 18, i had other parnters before and not one of them commented on my lips.
i remember several friends commenting saying nasty things about woman with large lips, one said woman with large lips smell....another was with her partner at a strip club the girl stripping had large lips and she said to all the girls later that there was something wrong with the woman she was deformed, i asked what she meant and she said her lips were hanging out of her.... i was horrified she could be so shallow and niave, i never once told them i was one of those woman with them...sometimes i think its the woman who make the big deal about it not the men....my husband loves giving me pleasure and if he has his way we would never leave the house he would be sucking nibbling eating me all day every day.....let your man enjoy what you have and its true the more confident you feel about yourself and your lips the less you will worry what anyone else thinks....

Hi Dear Confused Girl,

Just an advice how could you start a discussion with your boyfriend about that topic:

In an intimate situation, but when you are still dressed, ask him to describe his penis, e.g how does it look like: it is cut or not, the shape, a how tic,k how big.  

After you pretended that you are interested in all details: you just need to say:  oh that must be so big and so nice  and in the meanwhile you could approaching to him and just say it, even it would be a white-lie.

After that he will be so curious and asking about you down there. So as obvious as you can just say as a fact: that not only he has 'big' but your labia are large as well.

After these words he can not be grossed, and hurt you.

Let s Check it.

Best Regards:  

Don_R

I know that you have had many replies and mine may not make a difference but i went through exactly the same thing as you, and like you i am quite attractive with a body to die for :-P (so i've been told). Act confident! This is one of the key points. I read a few letters on this site in 2005 when I was going to lose my virginity and one man said to introduce your guy to your labia in a sexual way. Maybe blindfold him and let him feel your body or you take control and place his hand there. I did this and it worked like a charm. It also spiced things up a bit. I am 22 now and last month I split with my boyfriend of 4 years. I am kind of looking forward to introducing a new guy to my labia :-)
Your boyfriend will love them. He might be a bit scared or curious if he has only been with girls with small labia's. Just go for it I say! Let us know how it goes :-)